Online Dating Cheats? Don’t leave print-outs of your emails with other dates on your bedstand
BlueEyes1962 12 Jun 2008 | : He/She Said That?
I got a call last night from a woman friend I met on match.com. I used the site to email 50+ woman 40 years and older asking for online daitng stories, and Debbie’s the only one who emailed back. Needless to say, I am very appreciative of her friendship – she may be one in a million, but I have statistical proof that she’s at least 1 in 50. Debbie wanted to go out for a drink at RPM’s (1020 Washington Pike, Bridgeville, PA) to sit outside and have some free wings, and wondered if I could join her.
My daughter graduated from Mt. Lebanon High School last night, so I couldn’t go – I couldn’t even return Debbie’s phone call in the madness before graduation. I’m in the process of getting my house painted, and this was the day they were doing my daughter’s bathroom – we couldn’t find any of her make up and things were a little nuts. Not as bad as the year before when my older son graduated and I couldn’t find my only set of car keys (they were in the kitchen sink under a pile of dishes) but not really calm.
I called her back today but we’re playing telphone tag. I do know what the issue is, bcause she emailed me:
A Lesson Learned by Debbie (and I need to take my own advice)
If you’ve been in a romantic relationship for a year or more, and your guy agrees to be sexually exclusive yet continues to keep his dating profile active, it means that he does not have both feet in the relationship and is keeping his options open.
And, he is more than likely (or at least wanting to) dip his wick elsewhere. He may be stringing you along for the great sex. Unlike the female brain and heart, some men separate emotions from sexual gratification.
What ever the case may be, all of the above aren’t the hallmarks of a relationship that can progress!
And never let somebody, man or woman, tell you that black is white when you know the score. Always have boundaries and acknowledge when they have been crossed and put yourself first instead of someone who does not care enough about you.
Be good to yourself. Remember who you are. Get the key back and move on.
Don’t beat yourself up for having worn those “I’m in love” blinders. Love can and does make us, male and female, blind. (Cliches are fixtures of speech for good reason.)
There are plenty of good, emotionally available men out there in the dating world. Eventually you will meet one with enough savvy to recognize you as a gem shinning brightly upon that pile of recently broken rocks. The one who did not see you as a flower amidst weeds needs new glasses.
Here’s to finding a match deserving of our love!
Debbie