Comments on: Pittsburgh Writing Coach’s Advice for Online Dating Profiles: “Lose the clichés” http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/ Pittsburgh ranked 35th out of the country's 40 largest urban areas for singles, according to the 2007 Forbes.com ranking. No wonder we are all on the Internet looking for love. Here's what we've found.... Thu, 09 Jul 2009 00:40:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: NetDatingPro http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/comment-page-1/#comment-443 NetDatingPro Fri, 06 Jun 2008 21:58:04 +0000 http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/#comment-443 Speaking of men without their shirts on, I had one fellow continually send me a picture of just his chest-I was a little offended because I don't move that fast -that was before we even started any sort of e-mail relationship (let alone meeting him). I guess he wanted to prove that he was ripped. I tried playing it off with a joke to get him to stop but he didn't so I did. What planet do these men come from??!! Speaking of men without their shirts on, I had one fellow continually send me a picture of just his chest-I was a little offended because I don’t move that fast -that was before we even started any sort of e-mail relationship (let alone meeting him). I guess he wanted to prove that he was ripped. I tried playing it off with a joke to get him to stop but he didn’t so I did. What planet do these men come from??!!

]]> By: Nancy Van Iderstine http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/comment-page-1/#comment-104 Nancy Van Iderstine Tue, 22 Jan 2008 19:50:59 +0000 http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/#comment-104 So true!!! I think these profiles tell a l-o-t about our psychological health or lack thereof. And I'm floored at the number of people who put in their profile, for the entire world to read, something like: Let me cook YOU a fabulous meal, fly YOU to Paris and rub YOUR shoulders in the morning. (Capitalization added for effect). Imagine who's reading all this? Really? What if I'm toothless in Seattle with a gin bottle in one hand and a spitoon in the other? YOU'RE going to rub MY shoulders in the morning? How'd I get so lucky? :-) So true!!! I think these profiles tell a l-o-t about our psychological health or lack thereof. And I’m floored at the number of people who put in their profile, for the entire world to read, something like: Let me cook YOU a fabulous meal, fly YOU to Paris and rub YOUR shoulders in the morning. (Capitalization added for effect). Imagine who’s reading all this? Really? What if I’m toothless in Seattle with a gin bottle in one hand and a spitoon in the other? YOU’RE going to rub MY shoulders in the morning? How’d I get so lucky? :-)

]]> By: ADVENTUROUS http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/comment-page-1/#comment-103 ADVENTUROUS Tue, 22 Jan 2008 17:56:23 +0000 http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/#comment-103 A lot of women use the form "I'm just as comfortable in a X as I am in a Y". It's so common! I guess they're trying to express their flexibility. But if they want to stand out from the crowd, they should avoid that line! Examples, each from a different profile: I am just as comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt drinking a cold beer as I am in a black dress and heels sipping martinis in NYC. I'm comfy in a great pair of jeans, or a little black dress...from skiing to a black tie event. I am comfortable in a pair of jeans or in a little black dress. I am as comfortable wearing a flannel shirt and driving an open-top Wrangler as I am in heels, pearls and a little black dress at the symphony. I am as comfortable in jeans as I am in an evening gown. I am just as comfortable in jeans as I am in a full length gown. I am equally comfortable at a back yard barbeque as I am at a $500 a plate charity fundraiser. I equally enjoy black tie benefits and Steeler/Pitt football games. I'm as comfortable in my Penn State sweatshirt as I am in pearls and high heels. I'm just as comfy in sweats as I am in a dress. I enjoy getting dressed up for a night on the town as well as wearing jeans, getting muddy, and going for a quad ride. Help! Adrift in a sea of conformity! But then, once in a blue moon, a poet or two comes along: I'm as comfortable at Heinz Hall as I am at Heinz Field. I'm just as comfortable covered in silk as I am covered in mud. My love for adventure has taken me from fishing in the Amazon to dressing up for Salsa dancing in Rio. In other words, I am just as comfortable handling a fishnet as I am wearing them! A clever double entendre doesn't hurt, either: So I have been lucky to straddle the poles of feminine deportment. I can tune your vintage sportscar and be ready for a white tie dinner less than an hour later. A lot of women use the form “I’m just as comfortable in a X as I am in a Y”. It’s so common! I guess they’re trying to express their flexibility. But if they want to stand out from the crowd, they should avoid that line!

Examples, each from a different profile:

I am just as comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt drinking a cold beer as I am in a black dress and heels sipping martinis in NYC.
I’m comfy in a great pair of jeans, or a little black dress…from skiing to a black tie event.
I am comfortable in a pair of jeans or in a little black dress.
I am as comfortable wearing a flannel shirt and driving an open-top Wrangler as I am in heels, pearls and a little black dress at the symphony.
I am as comfortable in jeans as I am in an evening gown.
I am just as comfortable in jeans as I am in a full length gown.
I am equally comfortable at a back yard barbeque as I am at a $500 a plate charity fundraiser.
I equally enjoy black tie benefits and Steeler/Pitt football games.
I’m as comfortable in my Penn State sweatshirt as I am in pearls and high heels.
I’m just as comfy in sweats as I am in a dress.
I enjoy getting dressed up for a night on the town as well as wearing jeans, getting muddy, and going for a quad ride.

Help! Adrift in a sea of conformity! But then, once in a blue moon, a poet or two comes along:

I’m as comfortable at Heinz Hall as I am at Heinz Field.
I’m just as comfortable covered in silk as I am covered in mud.
My love for adventure has taken me from fishing in the Amazon to dressing up for Salsa dancing in Rio. In other words, I am just as comfortable handling a fishnet as I am wearing them!

A clever double entendre doesn’t hurt, either:

So I have been lucky to straddle the poles of feminine deportment. I can tune your vintage sportscar and be ready for a white tie dinner less than an hour later.

]]> By: Naomi http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Naomi Tue, 22 Jan 2008 17:21:18 +0000 http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/#comment-102 I love moonlit walks through the landfill, and sweltering walks on the beach in July. I like to share a bottle of wine curled up in front of the fireplace; we'd use a few blankets because my fireplace doesn't work. But I don't cuddle much; skin contact usually creeps me out. Wow, this wine is pretty vinegary, isn't it? I go to church about once a month but I should go less often; it's really a waste (except for the snacks). I don't like walking; never have. I gained 10 pounds last year. My favorite music is rap - love to crank it! I hate sitcoms, don't care for sports. My match: a man that makes everybody recoil when he enters a room. Our eyes meet and my skin begins to crawl. You might not want to write me. I love moonlit walks through the landfill, and sweltering walks on the beach in July. I like to share a bottle of wine curled up in front of the fireplace; we’d use a few blankets because my fireplace doesn’t work. But I don’t cuddle much; skin contact usually creeps me out. Wow, this wine is pretty vinegary, isn’t it? I go to church about once a month but I should go less often; it’s really a waste (except for the snacks). I don’t like walking; never have. I gained 10 pounds last year. My favorite music is rap – love to crank it! I hate sitcoms, don’t care for sports. My match: a man that makes everybody recoil when he enters a room. Our eyes meet and my skin begins to crawl. You might not want to write me.

]]> By: Elizabeth http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Elizabeth Tue, 22 Jan 2008 15:07:59 +0000 http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/22/online-dating-profile-advice-guys-put-your-shirt-on-and-lose-the-ball-cap/#comment-100 Lose the animal pictures, put your shirts on, men, I don't care what type of car you drive, so don't take photos with it, and for goodness sake...comb the hair! Also, don't tell me you know how to 'create romance in a relationship' when you've been divorced a few times. Lose the animal pictures, put your shirts on, men, I don’t care what type of car you drive, so don’t take photos with it, and for goodness sake…comb the hair! Also, don’t tell me you know how to ‘create romance in a relationship’ when you’ve been divorced a few times.

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