Comments on: Online Dating Strategies for Pittsburgh Women – What Works? http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/05/online-dating-strategies-for-pittsburgh-women-what-works/ Pittsburgh ranked 35th out of the country's 40 largest urban areas for singles, according to the 2007 Forbes.com ranking. No wonder we are all on the Internet looking for love. Here's what we've found.... Thu, 09 Jul 2009 00:40:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: NetDatingPro http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/05/online-dating-strategies-for-pittsburgh-women-what-works/comment-page-1/#comment-257 NetDatingPro Fri, 28 Mar 2008 03:26:20 +0000 http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/05/online-dating-strategies-for-pittsburgh-women-what-works/#comment-257 Since I have been on dating websites for over a decade (and people can say whatever they want about me being picky or a commitment-phobe) I can say that I have used both tactics-met men that contacted me and occasionally me contacting them. I used to wait until men contacted me but what do you have to lose by trying? You'll know after the first or second e-mail OR date whether it's worth pursuing further. I have met a lot of attractive intelligent and nice men but none of which I really clicked with or with whom things worked out, so it depends on what you are looking for too. I haven't been looking for anything long term until now (I'm in my mid-30s and an extremely busy professional). It's also a good idea to meet early in the process before you build up expectations during lengthy e-mail exchanges-that usually doesn't work. If you read Cathy's book, her own brother's wife was the one who initiated contact in their relationship through match. So that does work for many women. But in the end, you have to use a method that feels comfortable to you. I've certainly evolved in the last 10 years with respect to that. Since I have been on dating websites for over a decade (and people can say whatever they want about me being picky or a commitment-phobe) I can say that I have used both tactics-met men that contacted me and occasionally me contacting them. I used to wait until men contacted me but what do you have to lose by trying? You’ll know after the first or second e-mail OR date whether it’s worth pursuing further. I have met a lot of attractive intelligent and nice men but none of which I really clicked with or with whom things worked out, so it depends on what you are looking for too. I haven’t been looking for anything long term until now (I’m in my mid-30s and an extremely busy professional). It’s also a good idea to meet early in the process before you build up expectations during lengthy e-mail exchanges-that usually doesn’t work. If you read Cathy’s book, her own brother’s wife was the one who initiated contact in their relationship through match. So that does work for many women. But in the end, you have to use a method that feels comfortable to you. I’ve certainly evolved in the last 10 years with respect to that.

]]> By: treefrog http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/05/online-dating-strategies-for-pittsburgh-women-what-works/comment-page-1/#comment-81 treefrog Mon, 07 Jan 2008 01:41:02 +0000 http://pittsburghinternetdating.com/2008/01/05/online-dating-strategies-for-pittsburgh-women-what-works/#comment-81 Cutie sounds obsessive-compulsive to me. Four dates or even three dates in one day is something I might try once but to do it every day you've got to have a problem! Does she have a job? She a nympho? I find that it often takes an hour of thinking/feeling out your emotions for each hour of dating. Cutie must not be giving these guys much thought at all if she's going through them that rapidly. And if she's not giving them much thought then she's probably not giving them (or herself) a chance at a relationship. I use careful reading of profiles and email and sometimes phone to screen women before I commit to a face-to-face meeting. Weed out the psychos. Get the volume of first dates down to one or two a week -- that's manageable. Cutie sounds obsessive-compulsive to me. Four dates or even three dates in one day is something I might try once but to do it every day you’ve got to have a problem! Does she have a job? She a nympho?

I find that it often takes an hour of thinking/feeling out your emotions for each hour of dating. Cutie must not be giving these guys much thought at all if she’s going through them that rapidly. And if she’s not giving them much thought then she’s probably not giving them (or herself) a chance at a relationship.

I use careful reading of profiles and email and sometimes phone to screen women before I commit to a face-to-face meeting. Weed out the psychos. Get the volume of first dates down to one or two a week — that’s manageable.

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