I told you about ZZUG, who was looking for a woman between the ages of 42 and 46, and how that caught my eye. When we got together I asked him about the impossibly thin slice of all the potential women out there that he had targeted. I thought he was a little crazy, but what he said made some sense. ZZUG was 44, already had 3 children, and wasn’t interested in having more. He didn’t want to date women in their 30′s because they might still want to have children. He figured that a 42-year old woman who was up on Match.com had probably come to terms with her clicking biological clock and had resigned herself to the number of children she presently had.

ZZUG had dated a 48-year old woman, and it had not turned out well, so he figured that was too old. Thus he came up with the magic 4 years of age acceptability.

It should be obvious form this conversation that he was in either the Engineering or I.T. field. (It’s I.T.) Most people don’t think this way.

However, something can be said for logic and rationality, even though I don’t always trust it. Take the opposite example – a man the same age, recently divorced, with the same number of children, who is pretty sure he doesn’t want more. This man, let’s call him Bill, decided that he wanted to date younger women, in their 30′s who didn’t have children.

Bill told me he did not want to deal with some other guy’s kids, and did not want a woman burdened with family obligations, but he did not think that a young woman in her 30′s might want marriage and children.

Bill’s been dumped a few times, and he has since learned that if you want a casual relationship with a woman, don’t pick one racing against time limits. ZZUG was definitely ahead of the curve with this one.

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