When I told my friend Sue that I was starting a blog about internet dating in Pittsburgh, she suggested I hook up with her ex-husband Stan’s ex-girlfriend’s best friend, Jane, who she referred to as “the Queen of Internet Dating.” Jane agreed to talk to me, and we met to Uptown Coffee in Mt. Lebanon.

It’s a small and tangled world – it turns out her ex-husband’s new wife was a friend of mine from St. Bernard. Our kids had gone to school together, and when I met her (I’ll call her “Liz”) at South Hills Villiage 6 months ago, I had asked her how she was dealing with her oldest going off the college soon. Liz said that since she now had 6 kids at home, having recently acquired 3 more through marriage, she thought she could handle it.

She told me how she had met her new husband through Match.com, even though he lived right in the neighborhood, and said, “When you are ready to date again, you need to be on Match. Everyone’s on it.”

It’s because of Liz that I went on Match, and here I was sitting across the table from her new husband’s ex-wife. She was very smart, very pretty, and very insightful – especially about divorced men in their 40′s and 50′s. She told me she had dated a lot of men and that they all complained about their ex-wives, that the complaints could be boiled down to the same one big complaint and it was that their ex-wives were women, acted like women and wanted what all women want.

We had to get back to our kids so we couldn’t talk as long as I would have liked, but she promised to talk again. I’m not sure how many stories she will tell me, because she is writing a book about dating herself. But I am looking for any wisdom I can find, and she seems like a good source, even if I found her through my friend’s ex’s ex.

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